Thursday 20 November 2014

Living in The PAST??

很多时候。。。

很多很多时候人都是活在自己的过去。

无论成功与失败

快乐与悲伤

总是有人会说做人要往前看,过去的随他吧

但是就是有很多过去的感觉让人无法正视前方。

遗憾,愧疚,受伤,享受,舒适,愉快

无论是好的坏的都有让人难以应对

不好的让人有挫败感,失去信心,甚至过度的遗憾某些事可能导致精神失常

好的会让人失去动力,或是沉浸于过去的快乐而失去现在。

过去的,不是忘掉算了

成历史的,就让他成为自己的经验,自己的大略导航。

失败的就让它成为成功的梯级。

遗憾的让它过去,并让自己活得更实在(否则遗憾会更多)

成功了,也是往事。

不要因一时的成功而毁了未来的路。

最后除了不要活在于过去的事,只想分享一句

有些事情现在不做,以后都不会再做了。

把握每一个现在,而记忆,永远把它留在记忆就好。

睡吧朋友。。。熬夜不好。。。看你又在胡言乱语了。。。

Tuesday 11 November 2014

问题?有吗?

人是一种很奇怪的生物。

说是万物之灵却自相残杀。

说是具有智慧的却渐渐的放弃思考。

说是能和谐共处但却在暗地里厮杀。

总是认为自己是最能,最行。

总是能看到别人的弱点,缺点。

却总是完忘记自己的不足,黑暗的一面。

却总是敷衍他人的成就,善面。

人的天性之一就是总是能在别人成功是找出别人的缺点或八卦。

总是在自己爬不上时希望能够把别人拉下来。

人都说善事做多了也没什么大不了,不过一个小小恶事往往就是大新闻。

自我,羡慕,妒忌,求不得,舍不得,虚荣等等因素让人走向这方向。

多少每个人都有着一些如此的感觉。

很正常的。

人。

不是完美的。

不过必须要在需要时做出一些自我反省。

看看自己在哪里不够好。

看看有没有需要再改进的。

还有。

不用怕别人要拉你下来。

因为这代表你的成就比他们高。

但别太高傲。

因为当你真的被拉下来是真的不会很好看。


Monday 13 October 2014

认识自己?

先分享一个故事:

在山上的一座寺庙里有一头推磨的毛驴。

驴子每天的工作除了推磨吃草睡觉就没别的了,也没机会出外去看世界。

因此,驴子感到他生活很烦躁,一心想要出外去看看世界。

有一天,师傅要下山去办事,就把驴子也带去了。

在办完事后,师傅就把一样东西寄放于驴子身上。

在回去的路上,驴子注意到街上的人见它就跪下来膜拜。

驴子看了很是得意,认为自己多年在庙里的修行不是做假的才会的到如此待遇。

所以回去以后,驴子就自傲起来不愿意做推磨的活。

庙里的人拿它没办法只好让它那么办。

一天,庙外传来许多喧哗声,挤上来许多的人。

驴子见了就认为是来见它的,就走到人群中,以为又会有如上次的情况。

可惜这次没有。

人们见到驴子就叫它闪边去,不要挡路。

有的甚至还打骂那驴子。

那天晚上,师傅见驴子闷闷不乐,就告诉它真相。

原来那日驴子身上背的东西是一尊佛像,所以人们见了就膜拜,并不是向驴子膜拜。

故事中驴子因不认识自己,换来了特别的待遇。

那么你。

对,就是

究竟你知道你是谁吗?

有没有仔细想想过自己是谁,为什么而存在,为什么而活下去?

每个人都有着自己存在的意义,只是没有去发掘而已。

你,我,他,每个人都是独特的存在。

有不同的理想,理念,长短处等等都有所不同。

就连样貌都多半都不同。

那么你到底是谁呢?

我们很多时候都把时间花在与物质上的东西,忽略了寻找自己。

现代的物质享受太多太多了,而且也在迅速发展中,那么人能否在这环境中找到自我呢?

有时候寻找自我并不难。

花一点的时间,去想想自己,跟自己对话,尝试认清自己。

明白自己的理想,理念甚至生活观。

花一点点的时间,放下物质上的享受,去思考关于自己所要的,思考自己必须做的决定。

Monday 6 October 2014

说话,聆听,反驳,接受?

说话,是人类传达自己意见的最根本方法。

聆听,是人类接受别人想法的管道。

反驳,是人类不满于他人意见时的反应。

接受,是人类愿意把自己的意见暂放一旁来消化他人的意见。

接受是很难的一件事。尤其是在每个人都抱着自己都是对的情况下接受是很难的事。

说话和反驳都是一门艺术,但是又有谁能学会聆听和接受这一门智慧呢?

说接受并不是完全赞同他人的意见。而是如何消化他人的意见来巩固自己的意见,让自己有个提升自我的机会。

有时候在分享意见时总是会遇见意见不合的情况。

这时,若你是聆听者,你会不会选择中断他人的话,进行一系列的反驳?

当一个话题被中断时,尤其是说者在兴致勃勃的时候被中断,那个话题的后来多少是没有后啦。。。

而往往也会因此得罪的说话的人。就算没有得罪也会影响他的心情(尤其是当他和很重要的人说话的时候)。

而从另一个方面反驳的人就这样失去一个机会了。一个可以提升自己的机会。

人不是万能的。

人是需要从错误中,或是从别人的错误中学习。

所以说反驳并不是不可以。只是要看情况。

当说者在接受一小小的反驳时依然想继续自己的想法,那就让他结束他的话才尝试与其分享自己的想法。

但是如果他是个能接受反驳的人,那反驳也无妨。

毕竟人总是特别的。

有些人能够接受,有的不能。

我们只有慢慢的去了解每个人,慢慢的明白他人,从而以最适合的方式去与其交流。

只有听得多,接受得多,并思考所接受的
自己才能够成长

好啦,快醒醒吧。。。别再睡了。。。

Friday 3 October 2014

小小举动,大大不同?

不知有无想过这问题。在你身边的每个你认识的人都可能在不知情的情况下就离开了。

生命是很脆弱的

短暂的

但就因为很脆弱短暂,生命才显得珍贵。

我们可以告诉自己生命是宝贵的所有不轻易结束自己的生命,但是你能肯定别人能有同一个想法吗?

在这里分享一个故事
是英文的懒得翻译。。。
Let's see if you send it back. We all know or knew someone like

this!!

One day, when I was a freshman in high school,
I saw a kid from my class was walking home from
school.

His name was Kyle. 
It looked like he was carrying all of his books. 

I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone
bring home all his books on a Friday?

He must really be a nerd.' 

I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.

As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him.

They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. 

His glasses went flying, and I saw them
land in the grass about ten feet from him...

He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes .

My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.

As I handed him his glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks.' 


They really should get lives.

' He looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!'

There was a big smile on his face.

It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.

I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.

As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. 

He said he had gone to private school before now.

I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.

We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books.

He turned out to be a pretty cool kid.

I asked him if he wanted to play a little football 
with my friends .

He said yes. 

We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.

Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the
huge stack of books again. 
I stopped him and said, 'Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!

' He just laughed and handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends.

When we were seniors we began to think about college.

Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.

I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never
be a problem. 

He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship. 

Kyle was valedictorian of our class.

I teased him all the time about being a nerd.

He had to prepare a speech for graduation.

I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak.

Graduation day, I saw Kyle. 

He looked great. 

He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school.

He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. 

He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved
him. 

Boy, sometimes I was jealous! 


Today was one of those days.

I could see that he was nervous about his speech.

So, I smacked him on the back and said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!'

He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and
smiled.... 

' Thanks,' he said. 

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began ...

'Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. 

Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends.... 

I am here to tell all of
you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them.

I am going to tell you a story.'

I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the first day we met.

He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.

He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.

He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.

'Thankfully, I was saved. 

My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.'

I
heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.

I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.

Not until that moment did I realize it's depth.

Never underestimate the power of your actions.

With one small gesture you can change a person's life.

For better or for worse. 

We are in each others lives and we impact one another in some way.

Look for goodness in others. 


很多时候,多注意别人

多关心别人

你可能为他人的生命做出很大的改变

“我们都一样,一样的善良,
一样为需要的人打造一个天堂。”

为了更美好的世界做出改变!!
但是感觉你还是在做梦中。。。

Wednesday 1 October 2014

开朗?还是脆弱?

读过一篇文章提到过越是喜欢讨人欢笑的人往往内心深处越是脆弱。

人总是希望透过一些事情让自己在别人眼中得到一些肯定。肯定自己的存在是有用的。

在他人面前保持一个开心的心情,希望借此能够让别人更注意自己,肯定自己,但是往往自己在背后埋没了自己不愉快的心情。从不会主动去分享,从不会想要去分享。

因为总是觉得这些让自己一个人承担下来就够了,不要拖累别人。

多少的痛苦,悲伤总是吧这些负面的情绪留给自己,在别人面前还是尝试保持开朗愉快的表情,去让大家能够从自己得到多一些快乐。

不过这却是一种针扎。

一直希望别人的关怀。

一直希望他人能够明白自己的想法。

明白自己内心的感受。

却又不希望当别人知道了会显得自己很脆弱。

让他人知道了会带给被人负担。

到最后所有的一切还是回归于自己扛,独自沉默,独自消化不愉快的心情。

应该是时候让自己放开了。应该要有些成长了吧。

学着如何去分享。

学着如何去面对。

学着明白分享担忧悲伤并不是脆弱的代表。

学着更加的去相信他人,依靠他人,并一起度过低落的时刻。

朋友,就是愿意与你同甘共苦,一起分享快乐忧伤的人。

真诚的面对他们,珍惜他们。

感谢所有的陪伴和理解
还有很长远的路要走呢。。。加油哦!!!

Monday 29 September 2014

可能。。。一阵暴雨一阵晴?

人的心情总是阴晴不定的。很多时候一个小小的举动对他人来说却是能改变那人一整天的心情。

而这多数都是出自于你最在意的人。尤其是正在一起的一对更是容易发生。

有时候当一个话题正要开始却被打断了,那话题多半都就没了。

想和重要的人分享自己的事情却遭到这等事,一个开朗的,开心的一天就这样结束了。

开始了一些不必要的困扰。

不重要了么?

难道听我说话很难吗?

给我们一些单独的时间不行吗?

到最后还是必须安慰自己说她也是很忙的,原谅她吧。

别生气吧,她那里也有自己的生活要过的。

这几句话就这样的回绕在脑海中好多好多次直到心能够平定下来,让理智主控回自己的情绪。

可能还不够坚强吧。。。

还需要许多的磨练吧。。。

还必须在学习接受不愉快的一切,认真的去面对而不再逃避它。

没有你的日子我有多想你啊。。。