Monday, 6 October 2014

说话,聆听,反驳,接受?

说话,是人类传达自己意见的最根本方法。

聆听,是人类接受别人想法的管道。

反驳,是人类不满于他人意见时的反应。

接受,是人类愿意把自己的意见暂放一旁来消化他人的意见。

接受是很难的一件事。尤其是在每个人都抱着自己都是对的情况下接受是很难的事。

说话和反驳都是一门艺术,但是又有谁能学会聆听和接受这一门智慧呢?

说接受并不是完全赞同他人的意见。而是如何消化他人的意见来巩固自己的意见,让自己有个提升自我的机会。

有时候在分享意见时总是会遇见意见不合的情况。

这时,若你是聆听者,你会不会选择中断他人的话,进行一系列的反驳?

当一个话题被中断时,尤其是说者在兴致勃勃的时候被中断,那个话题的后来多少是没有后啦。。。

而往往也会因此得罪的说话的人。就算没有得罪也会影响他的心情(尤其是当他和很重要的人说话的时候)。

而从另一个方面反驳的人就这样失去一个机会了。一个可以提升自己的机会。

人不是万能的。

人是需要从错误中,或是从别人的错误中学习。

所以说反驳并不是不可以。只是要看情况。

当说者在接受一小小的反驳时依然想继续自己的想法,那就让他结束他的话才尝试与其分享自己的想法。

但是如果他是个能接受反驳的人,那反驳也无妨。

毕竟人总是特别的。

有些人能够接受,有的不能。

我们只有慢慢的去了解每个人,慢慢的明白他人,从而以最适合的方式去与其交流。

只有听得多,接受得多,并思考所接受的
自己才能够成长

好啦,快醒醒吧。。。别再睡了。。。

Friday, 3 October 2014

小小举动,大大不同?

不知有无想过这问题。在你身边的每个你认识的人都可能在不知情的情况下就离开了。

生命是很脆弱的

短暂的

但就因为很脆弱短暂,生命才显得珍贵。

我们可以告诉自己生命是宝贵的所有不轻易结束自己的生命,但是你能肯定别人能有同一个想法吗?

在这里分享一个故事
是英文的懒得翻译。。。
Let's see if you send it back. We all know or knew someone like

this!!

One day, when I was a freshman in high school,
I saw a kid from my class was walking home from
school.

His name was Kyle. 
It looked like he was carrying all of his books. 

I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone
bring home all his books on a Friday?

He must really be a nerd.' 

I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on.

As I was walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him.

They ran at him, knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in the dirt. 

His glasses went flying, and I saw them
land in the grass about ten feet from him...

He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his eyes .

My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye.

As I handed him his glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks.' 


They really should get lives.

' He looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!'

There was a big smile on his face.

It was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude.

I helped him pick up his books, and asked him where he lived.

As it turned out, he lived near me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. 

He said he had gone to private school before now.

I would have never hung out with a private school kid before.

We talked all the way home, and I carried some of his books.

He turned out to be a pretty cool kid.

I asked him if he wanted to play a little football 
with my friends .

He said yes. 

We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked him, and my friends thought the same of him.

Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the
huge stack of books again. 
I stopped him and said, 'Boy, you are gonna really build some serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!

' He just laughed and handed me half the books.

Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends.

When we were seniors we began to think about college.

Kyle decided on Georgetown and I was going to Duke.

I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles would never
be a problem. 

He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football scholarship. 

Kyle was valedictorian of our class.

I teased him all the time about being a nerd.

He had to prepare a speech for graduation.

I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and speak.

Graduation day, I saw Kyle. 

He looked great. 

He was one of those guys that really found himself during high school.

He filled out and actually looked good in glasses. 

He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved
him. 

Boy, sometimes I was jealous! 


Today was one of those days.

I could see that he was nervous about his speech.

So, I smacked him on the back and said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!'

He looked at me with one of those looks (the really grateful one) and
smiled.... 

' Thanks,' he said. 

As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began ...

'Graduation is a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years. 

Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly your friends.... 

I am here to tell all of
you that being a friend to someone is the best gift you can give them.

I am going to tell you a story.'

I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the first day we met.

He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.

He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home.

He looked hard at me and gave me a little smile.

'Thankfully, I was saved. 

My friend saved me from doing the unspeakable.'

I
heard the gasp go through the crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.

I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.

Not until that moment did I realize it's depth.

Never underestimate the power of your actions.

With one small gesture you can change a person's life.

For better or for worse. 

We are in each others lives and we impact one another in some way.

Look for goodness in others. 


很多时候,多注意别人

多关心别人

你可能为他人的生命做出很大的改变

“我们都一样,一样的善良,
一样为需要的人打造一个天堂。”

为了更美好的世界做出改变!!
但是感觉你还是在做梦中。。。

Wednesday, 1 October 2014

开朗?还是脆弱?

读过一篇文章提到过越是喜欢讨人欢笑的人往往内心深处越是脆弱。

人总是希望透过一些事情让自己在别人眼中得到一些肯定。肯定自己的存在是有用的。

在他人面前保持一个开心的心情,希望借此能够让别人更注意自己,肯定自己,但是往往自己在背后埋没了自己不愉快的心情。从不会主动去分享,从不会想要去分享。

因为总是觉得这些让自己一个人承担下来就够了,不要拖累别人。

多少的痛苦,悲伤总是吧这些负面的情绪留给自己,在别人面前还是尝试保持开朗愉快的表情,去让大家能够从自己得到多一些快乐。

不过这却是一种针扎。

一直希望别人的关怀。

一直希望他人能够明白自己的想法。

明白自己内心的感受。

却又不希望当别人知道了会显得自己很脆弱。

让他人知道了会带给被人负担。

到最后所有的一切还是回归于自己扛,独自沉默,独自消化不愉快的心情。

应该是时候让自己放开了。应该要有些成长了吧。

学着如何去分享。

学着如何去面对。

学着明白分享担忧悲伤并不是脆弱的代表。

学着更加的去相信他人,依靠他人,并一起度过低落的时刻。

朋友,就是愿意与你同甘共苦,一起分享快乐忧伤的人。

真诚的面对他们,珍惜他们。

感谢所有的陪伴和理解
还有很长远的路要走呢。。。加油哦!!!

Monday, 29 September 2014

可能。。。一阵暴雨一阵晴?

人的心情总是阴晴不定的。很多时候一个小小的举动对他人来说却是能改变那人一整天的心情。

而这多数都是出自于你最在意的人。尤其是正在一起的一对更是容易发生。

有时候当一个话题正要开始却被打断了,那话题多半都就没了。

想和重要的人分享自己的事情却遭到这等事,一个开朗的,开心的一天就这样结束了。

开始了一些不必要的困扰。

不重要了么?

难道听我说话很难吗?

给我们一些单独的时间不行吗?

到最后还是必须安慰自己说她也是很忙的,原谅她吧。

别生气吧,她那里也有自己的生活要过的。

这几句话就这样的回绕在脑海中好多好多次直到心能够平定下来,让理智主控回自己的情绪。

可能还不够坚强吧。。。

还需要许多的磨练吧。。。

还必须在学习接受不愉快的一切,认真的去面对而不再逃避它。

没有你的日子我有多想你啊。。。

Thursday, 25 September 2014

微笑,问好,改变世界(Smile, greet and change the world)

听过一个故事,让人觉得有时一个小小的举动可以改变一个人的命运。

任在一个工厂工作。每天无论上班下班他都会对每个人给予一个微笑或者问好,哪怕对象是个保安人员或是清洁工人。

就在这么一天,任在放工时为了做最后的检查走进了冷藏室,就很不幸的被反锁在里面。(好像是全世界知道的情节)

因为下班了所有同事都离开了,他有了要一个人注定要冻死在冷藏室里的觉悟,因为无论他多么努力的喊叫敲打那扇门都不会有人察觉。

正当他接近死亡的边缘时,冷藏室的大门打开了。站在门口的是那工厂的保安人员。

被救出来后他很疑惑为什么保安会经过这里并且打开大门呢?

保安给的回答是:“因为每当上下班时全部人都把我当透明的,只有你会给我问好。所以当你的问好没有出现时我就知道你还没出来就开始找你的踪影了。”

有时候一个问好,一个微笑真的能改变许多事情。

当你与陌生人对上脸时,若你能在那时亮出你那微笑,感化他人露出微笑,那么自己在看到对方给予的微笑时也会顿时拥有更好的心情。

有时侯要向陌生人问好可能很难,可能要移动下巴很辛苦吧?那么从微笑开始吧~~

改变世界往往不会很难,这一切都只在每个人的一念之间。微笑吧,让世界更美好~

好了啦,梦醒了没?去露营吧。。。

Tuesday, 23 September 2014

现实与社交媒体的看法。。。??

           低头族在现今社会来说已经很普片了。看着自己最重要的书,最重要的宠物,最重要的战斗等等无时无刻都让低头族们低头了。。。真的有点废话。。。

           社交网站带给人们了许多的朋友和几手可得的咨询。成千上万个朋友散布世界各地和每个不同地方的咨询通过这社交圈子就不是得不到的事情。尤其是在智能手机和苹果的推广更是让人类们对此着迷。

           智能手机方便了人们无时无刻随时随地的得到想要的咨询和娱乐。但人类是否真正去感受在这现实生活中所可以得到的information呢?

          “现实和电子世界唯一的差别在于所拥有的讯息。”这是取自于刀剑神域里男主角说过的一句话。确实在现实生活中有很多的讯息是可以得到的。不过人类往往就是面对不了这个事实。

          一个感觉,一个呼吸,一个神情,一个表情,一个动作。这一切一切都带着许多的讯息不过很多人都渐渐的忽略了这些人与人之间互相连接的讯息。取而代之的是一些往往在太遥远天边的咨询,一些已成为过去的info。

         虽然如此,这些平台也已经成为很多团体或者组织的宣传和起通知作用的最主要工具。让人们更加难以放下这等的影响。想关闭面书都有点难。。。全世界都在用这个传信息啊!!!搞屁啊!!!

         不过无论如何还是希望人可以活着就跟身边的人面对面的聊天,认真的对待周围的人。给予一个实在的微笑,一个实在的招呼总比在社交媒体上画个:-)或是写个LOL来应对别人来得更有实在感吧?


绝对不是鼓励放下面书立地成佛啊,只是别太成谜了人类们。。。
别做梦了啦。。。

Monday, 22 September 2014

一些来自我的思想:

一些来自我的思想:

       人类有时真的很怪。会抱怨这世界种种的不公平,埋怨种种的不公待遇。

       但是人类自己有没有想过,如果自己都不能公平对待自己或者别人,那么怎样来的公平世界呢?

       假设一个强盗被另一个强盗打劫,认为他本身有资格埋怨这世界的不公平吗?埋怨他辛辛苦苦强来的钱被别人强走吗?那被他强的人怎么办呢?靠自个儿辛苦赚来的血汗钱就在不到几秒钟的时间消失了他能埋怨吗?

       这只是打个比方。其实当你仔细想想,有时候在你身边会出现许多如此的情况,认为走比较容易的路可以带给自个儿更大的好处。但是否曾为那些真真付出努力,时间,金钱和一切的人想想这样公平吧?

       或许到这里可能会说:”那就叫他们一起加入这走捷径的航班啊“~不过很多时候不是结果,而是那个经过,那个付出,那个过程才是最值得让人珍惜的。

       也许,可能,说不定,但也未必有一天人会有这等自觉。明白如果希望世界要有公平的一天,那就得从自己开始对别人公平吧。

若真的发生这世界真的会很不同。。。
别做梦了啦!!!